Newsletter #7
October 10, 2002

Hello To All!

I heard this saying the other day, "It always takes more time to clean up a broken egg than not to drop one at all!" and I about fell on the floor!! I loved it! Because it is sooo true!! And I really heard it at just the appropriate time. I've really been contemplating about how it takes just as much energy to be successful as it does to create chaos and then have to clean it up! AND THEN get the ship turned around -- so we(so to speak) can get on course again. Gosh! This is exhausting! As opposed to fully being who we are meant to be and really allowing our lights to shine on a moment to moment basis. It really takes the same amount of energy(success/chaos) -- just a different side of the coin. We get to ask ourselves, "Which energy do I want to live in?"

I' ve been talking to a few people who I really admire and respect and asked them, "How do they do it?" "How do they prevent chaos in their life, how do they not become distracted?" But better yet, "How do they keep moving forward in their visions and allow themselves to fully stand in all the Glory that they are?"

Bill who manages my web-site and has a million details and clients to deal with daily, said something so simple and yet so profound to me, he said, "There's an old Asian saying that "Drops of water drill through stones", as well as "A great journey begins with a single step". Any task can be completed by taking small steps. I use this when I do dishes even -- one fork at a time, one dish at a time, every step bringing the destination (in this case clean dishes) closer, and after re-evaluating the now-slightly-smaller task, that makes what was once a giant chore easier to complete and less intimidating."

It is amazing what we do as humans to prevent being successful in all areas of our lives. And it is equally amazing how skillful the distractions, situations or people become, that we allow in our lives, that prevent us from living up to our highest potential. What is that about??

Sometimes, It seems that the closer and closer we are to being happy and successful in our lives, or maybe, we are already there, having success, we allow these little chaos'(or maybe not so little) to come into our lives and take us off course.

Now we can sit and analyze for days "WHY?" "HOW DID I ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN AGAIN?" I honestly don't think it is about the 'how's' or the 'why's' -- because we can sit and ANAL-IZE everything to death and ask questions like:

1) Why wouldn't I want to be my best?
2) Why wouldn't I want to fully shine?
3) Why wouldn't I want to fully be all that I can be?


I think more importantly we can ask ourselves these questions:

1) How has this situation shown me what it is that I don't want in my life? i.e...I don't want to be distracted by relationships anymore.
2) What do I want? Well, I want to be in a relationship that fully supports me in all the glory and wonder that I am and I want to fully support myself and give myself all of the time and attention that I deserve!
3) Why do I want this? Because it feels fantastic to fully shine!! If you stay in the feeling state of why you want this for more than 17 seconds -- sure enough it is on the way to you!!

So, our 'negative' experiences ultimately end up showing us what we really want in our lives!

But, now what are we going to do on a daily basis to stay on track? Well, let's break it down to an hourly basis to fully stand in our power and honor ourselves. I really believe we get into some really bad habits. We have to become conscious on an hourly basis of fully putting the focus on ourselves and our visions. So, we need to consciously form a new habit.

Sometimes, it is an hourly conscious maintenance of reminding ourselves, "How can I fully stand in my power for the next hour?" What actions do I need to take to feel good about myself just for the next hour?" And then take that action. At the top of the new hour ask yourself the same question..." What can I do for just the next hour to fully put the focus on me?" And then the next hour..."What action do I need to take that will make me feel really good?" So, it is about hourly standing in our power as opposed to get distracted or into a situation that we may have to clean up later.


One great thing to do is to make a list of behaviors that make you feel good and cause you to become accountable.

For example:

1) Eating well
2) Not dialing pain( picking up that phone and calling that person)
3) Call the oweeys!! When someone hurts you say ouch! So, you don't obsess about it all day long!
4) Get an action buddy -- be accountable to someone
5) Get a Mentor


So, maybe for today wear something, a ring or a rubber band around your wrist, something to remind you at the top of the hour to ask yourself, "What action can I take just for the next hour that will make me feel really good about myself?"

Initially, it is a conscious effort to choose differently on an hourly basis -- we can not afford to go unconscious for a minute -- because all the Glory that we are and all the gifts that we have are just waiting for us to fully wake up and be expressed!!!!